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Eagle Eye Advice

Lakeesha J. Harris, Senior Staff Writer

February 26, 2012

Published: Saturday, February 25, 2012 Updated: Saturday, March 3, 2012 01:03 Keesha, Since the Adult and Women's office is no more, where can adults NEIU students get info on important resources they need to help them succeed, such as low cost childcare? I ask because the Head Start program in Uptown I am working for is opening a new room this Monday. The teacher is bilingual, speaking Spanish and English. We can accept kids between the ages of 3-5. We also have space in our 2-year-old room. Who can I give this info to at NEIU? Who could relay this to low income students who are in need of this service? Thanks for your help. Wynne Turkington – NEIU Alumna Hello Wynne, This is a very good question. As I walk across campus, I've noticed an increase in the amount of students with children in tow, going off to classes.  Some have confided in me that they lost their low cost childcare due to lack of state funding. One friend of mine in particular said that she was denied child care because she was a graduate student and the state thought that she should be able to afford childcare on her own as a graduate student. What this tells me is that our university, especially since the average student age is 27 years old, should be looking into more efficient ways to serve our student population – especially in regards to resources that will assist students to stay in school. I am glad that your organization is offering childcare services to the students of NEIU and I am happy to print it here. Students who are looking for low cost child-care services, please contact the Winthrop Children's Center. It's a full day head start program. Wynne Turkington is the family service worker and can be reached by calling (773) 878-4210. Dear Lakeesha, I've been having problems with a professor in my program. We got off to a bad start last semester due to disagreements over his teaching style and I have him again for a class this semester too. I feel like he's ignoring me during class discussions and is grading me more harshly than everyone else. I am probably going to have him again at some point during my time here and I just want to resolve our differences. What's the best way to approach him? Anonymous, Sophmore Dear Anon Sophmore, I think that most students come across the "Payback" professor. This is the professor who wields his/her power of the grade to subdue the "out of control" student. Towing the line of professor-student relationships can be a tricky balancing act, and students often feel powerless to do anything if they feel wronged. This is nothing new in the world of academia. Here's the good news. As a student, you have the power of petition.  You should start by having a conversation with your professor. Let him/her know your feelings and see if there is a solution that will work for both of you. As students we often forget that professors were also once students, and may have felt slighted along their path toward higher education. Most conflicts with professors can be resolved through this simple step. If, after this conversation, you feel that amicable results were not gained from this interaction, you may need to work the chain of protocol. This will lead you to the department head next. Whatever program or department you are in has either a program coordinator or department chair. Find out who that person is and schedule a meeting with them. More often than not they can act as a mediator between you and professor "Payback". If no resolution can be reached by this method you have two other options. You can go to the Dean of your college or you can do a grade appeal once the grades are turned in for the semester. The grade appeal process can be found in the student handbook and accessed online at I hope all of this helps you to feel empowered. By the way, document everything. You will need it to back up your claim of misconduct....

Eagle Eye Advice: Timely Advice for Real Problems

Lakeesha J. Harris, Senior Staff Writter

February 7, 2012

  Published: Monday, February 6, 2012 Updated: Tuesday, February 7, 2012 03:02 Eagle Eye advice is committed to providing real answers to everyday problems. As it is Black History month I wanted to dedicate this space to the integral issue of mental health and suicides among African Americans. One question came across my desk right after the passing of Don Cornelius, long time host of Soul Train, due to an apparent suicide. Q. Dear Lakeesha, For years mental health has been taboo topic in my family. I am African American and we just don't talk about stuff like that. I am finding that many of my family members are dealing with it through drug use or not at all. I am concerned that this is a generational thing, as I find myself depressed and can't explain way. As an African American, how can we start the conversation about mental health issues in our community? No one wants to talk about it. What can students like me do to get mental health services on our campus? - Anonymous Junior A. Dear Anon – Junior, I am so glad that you are reaching out. Tackling mental health issues can be a great undertaking as many mental health resources are drying up due to the economy, and quite frankly, mental health is treated like a dangerous topic within our community. Quite often we underestimate the limits of what we can take on men- tally on a day-to-day basis, because we've been socially trained to suck it up and shut up. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), while depression is most likely caused by a combination of genetic, biological, environmental, and psychological factors, it can happen to anyone. Another study done by NIMH showed that less than half of African Americans with a Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) are likely to seek treatment, and African Americans are likely to experience MDD chronically and more severely than their age counterparts of other ethnicities. In short, you are not alone, and it's great to recognize that you need help tackling this issue. Reaching out is the first step toward a mentally healthier you and contacting a mental health professional could be the best thing that you do for the rest of your life. Your story struck a personal cord with me as mental health issues run in my family too, and I felt as you did, unable to talk about them be- cause they were taboo. Everything seemed to go wrong in my younger years, I was very depressed and a danger to myself. I was lucky that someone found me before I took my life. Every day I realize how my absence from this world would have affected those I love and who love me. Others aren't so lucky and feel they have to navigate this very tough terrain alone. So please remember that you aren't alone and there are resources available to you right here at NEIU. Northeastern Illinois University has free counseling services on our campus that can be reached by calling (773) 446-4650. You can visit their offices in room D-024, right below the Enrollment Services Office. Would you like to submit a question? Email us at: [email protected]

Eagle Eye Advice: Timely Advice for Real Problems

January 24, 2012

By Lakeesha J. Harris, Senior Staff Writer Updated: Friday, January 27, 2012 00:01   You know how you've been dying for an answer to that question that you just can't seem to find anyone to answer in a no-holds-barred kind of way? You know – the one that's been eating at your gut and keeping you up at night when you so desperately need to sleep for your morning class, or worse, your final exam. Well look no more! Independent is proud to welcome its new advice column, where students can ask genuine questions, and expect answers that "keep it real". When the "Ask Me" campaign just won't do the trick, Independent gets to the meat of the situation. To submit your questions for advice that's tried and true - email your questions to: [email protected] You can remain anonymous, or leave a name. Make sure to include your year in school.   Q. It's the beginning of the semester, I'm already sinking under the pressure of my classes and job, how do I cope? – Anonymous, Sophomore A. Dear Anon-Sophomore, First let me applaud you for reaching out. Quite often students are overwhelmed with the thought of entering a new semester with new classes, financial aid lines, and of course – lack of sleep. If you're a student leader many of us get swamped under the pressure of trying to tackle so many tasks with so little time. I'm going to give you some great advice that someone once told me, which I try to employ quite often these days, JUST SAY NO! Though this phrase didn't work for the anti-drug campaign of the Regan years, it can work wonders when trying to prioritize your life. When you work towards prioritizing what you need to do, and work from there, it can take an immense weight off of your shoulders. Then next thing I want you to do is write it all down. With technology booming in our lives we often plug important dates into our electronic gadgets and go. However, I find when I write it all down in a day planner and actually look at how busy my week is; I'm much more inclined to decline offers of a beer run or hanging out on Facebook to chat. Finally, did you know that, according to the NEIU Student Life's website, Northeastern offers a "Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Workshop" offered by the Counseling Office? Dates and times vary but it might benefit you to contact their offices in room D-024 or by calling 773-442-4650. I do hope all of this information helps, and good luck on your new semester. Believe me; it does get better as time goes on.   Q. How can I get my partner to reciprocate oral sex? – Anonymous, Senior A. Dear, Anon-Senior, Sex, oral or otherwise, is about trust and consent between all parties involved. With that said, you can't really "get your partner to do anything" that she/he doesn't want to do. However, I think that it's in the best interest of both of you to have a conversation about your likes and dislikes in the bedroom – this will most likely increase your intimate standing in your partner's eyes and intensify your chances of having that oral pleasure you so desperately desire. One way to get the conversation started is by visiting the doctor together. A happy sex life starts as a healthy sex life. When both of you know that the coast is clear and that you both are free of any Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI's) you may feel a little bit better in forging ahead with oral sexual gratification. Did you know that NEIU offers an array of free health services to the student body? The Health Services Office is located in room E-050, and their office can be contacted by calling 773-442-5800. After stopping by the Health Services office, you might want to make your way over to the Feminist Collective for their "Sex Is Good Workshop" on Thursday, Feb 23rd 2012. Early to Bed owner and sex blogger Searah Deysach gave a great presentation last year, and it is sure to educate and pique your interest. You and your partner can feel free to ask pertinent questions in a safe and affirming environment. Here's to you both getting what you want and need....

Anime Club Game Night

Syed Ahad Hussain, Senior Staff Writer

February 7, 2011

The Anime Club's bi-monthly Game Night was held in SU- 003 on the evening of Jan. 21; the selection of games included BlazBlue: Continuum Shift, Halo Reach, as well as card games like Dragon Shield, Magic, and UNO. "Game night is one of the events [that's] free for NEIU students—everybody is welcome and students can bring...

Man On The Street

January 25, 2011

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Have a sweet day

Katie Pastorelli, Staff writer

October 10, 2006

Sweetest Day is very much like Valentine's Day, only later. The third Saturday of the month of October is the day to spend with your special sweetie. Sweetest Day began in Cleveland in 1922 by a man named Herbert Birch Kingston, a philanthropist and an employer in a candy store. His goal one day was to bring happiness to...

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